While many students head off to college without resolving these issues, others take time off to look at options and alternatives. Reasons for hesitation or delay may include:
- Need time to mature
- Want to travel
- Want to volunteer for community service
- Want to support a cause
- Need to work to earn money for college
- Want to gain some experience or training
- Lack motivation
- Need time to figure out what they want to do
- Want to join the military
Opportunities to work, learn, and explore should be well planned and closely monitored. The time off should be used with a clear purpose in mind. Students can use the experiences they have in their time off to expand their viewpoints about their work and career direction, eliminate areas they dislike, and get a good understanding of life in the world of work. However, if the young person decides not to go to college, his/her parents should require them to accept a job and go to work every day. Sitting around at home should not be an option.
When students delay entering college, they should plan to do something with their time to get better prepared. Summer jobs are great motivators. They help students understand the importance of a good education and a good job. Taking a year-long vacation, on the other hand, will seldom resolve anything. Therefore, parents would be wise to help the student lay out a plan. That plan should include:
- Specific goals and objectives. (What will be evaluated and learned?)
- Testing and career counseling can be helpful. (Include as an objective.)
- A job. (Hard work clarifies choices, builds motivation, and improves life skills.)
- A deadline/time limit for each objective. (How much time will be allowed?)
- A method for measuring outcomes. (Rating scales are usually helpful.)
- Acceptable alternatives to college. (Must be realistic and career-oriented.)
For the most focused and capable students, delaying entrance into college is a viable choice for only a few. However, students with broad capabilities and experiences may benefit from a brief delay that can clarify their direction. Since many students have not yet discovered their talents and skills, they may need some time to explore and mature. This can be done in college, at work, through counseling and testing, or some combination of the aforementioned.
Wise parents work very hard to help their children gain the perspective and motivation that will lead to success when and if they do decide to enter college. When the decision is to not attend college, students must be capable, clear, and passionate about their direction and career possibilities.
About the Author
Bob Roth is the author of The 4 Realities of Success During and After College and The College Student’s Guide to Landing a Great Job. Visit Bob’s website at www.The4Realities.com.
